The 6 Secrets of Gay Anal Sex (What you should know and what you should look out for)

Anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for gay men, but there are a few things you should know before having anal sex and a few tips to help ease the pain.
Know how the anus works.Before having anal sex, let's talk about how the anus works. The anus is the opening at the end of the colon which controls the passage of waste. Waste passes through the small intestines to your colon, then your rectum and finally out the anus. The opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscles when engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure or pain.
Reduce the pain.Pain associated with anal sex can be due to pressure or friction against the sphincter muscles, hemorrhoids or anal fissures. Some pain can be reduced by properly lubricating. Seek a gay-friendly doctor for assistance with hemorrhoids, fissures or other medical conditions.
Get to know your body.The more familiar you are with your body, the more enjoyable anal sex can be. Each person's sphincter muscles react to penetration differently. Since the muscles control the opening and closing of the anus, you need to learn how yours works. Spend time safely exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter and how it reacts when you are relaxed or tense. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Use a small sex toy, then gradually increase the size. Exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter is an exercise both you and your partner can enjoy prior to penetration. Openly communicate how you feel in certain situations: What makes you tense? What are your limits? Stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or bleeding. The more you both know about your bodies, the better your anal sex experience.
Practice good hygiene.Many gay men shy away from anal sex because of the possible hygiene problems. Maintaining proper hygiene is not only important for an enjoyable anal sex experience, but your health as well. Cleaning can be overdone, however. Be careful with over the counter internal cleansing products. They contain harsh ingredients not formulated for the anus. Also, avoid over wiping as this can cause irritation and bleeding. Baby wipes also contain perfumes that can irritate the skin. To properly clean, use premoistened adult wipes, like Charmin Fresh Mates or Kleenex Cottonelle Flushable Wipes.
Beware of the dangers of STD's.The anus is a thin membrane and therefore a hot bed for sexually transmitted diseases. HIV and other STD's can easily enter the bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the anus. Having a thin membrane between your bloodstream and your partner's bodily fluids is what makes bareback sex so dangerous. Always use a condom and practice safer sex.
Dispel anal sex myths.Many gay men avoid seeking medical attention because they feel if they've had anal sex the doctor can immediately tell. Yes, the anus is stretched after anal sex, but it returns to normal soon after. If you think something may be wrong with your anus, see a gay-affirmative doctor.

Safer Oral Sex Tips

Using barrier methods, including condoms and dental dams, is the best way to make oral sex safer. A lot of people who are worried about dealing with bodily fluids find that flavored condoms and dams also reduce their inhibitions and make them better at going down on their partners.
If a man ejaculates during oral sex in or around the mouth of his partner or if any ejaculate gets in his partners eyes, it greatly increases the risk of STD infection (if he is infected with an STD).
In many cases, a STD can be transmitted even if the penis or tongue doesn’t go all the way in to the vagina, mouth or rectum and even if it isn’t obvious that body fluids are exchanged.
Some educators suggest you avoid brushing your teeth prior to performing oral sex as you can cause small cuts or abrasions that could increase the risk of fluid transmission.

10 Things You Oughta Know About...ORAL SEX

1. You can get an STD or HIV (the virus that causes AIDs) from oral sex - you must use a condom or dental dam no expectation.
2. Oral sex is not something that everyone is interested in - don't pressure somebody to do this, it is the same as pressuring them to have intercourse and it is wrong.
3. Oral sex is a very intimate, undeniably sexual act. You may technically hold on to your virginity by having oral sex instead of intercourse, but you are sexually active none the less.
4. The old "spit or swallow" question is outdated. When having oral sex you must use barrier protection making this question moot.
5. Oral sex can and does change the nature of a relationship, it should not be entered in to lightly.
6. Oral sex is not a consolation prize - if your partner says no to intercourse they don't owe you oral sex instead.
7. Oral sex is complicated and in many ways, more difficult to master than intercourse.
8. Most religions do consider premarital oral sex as prohibited as premarital intercourse and some actually consider oral sex off limits even within a marriage.
9. Oral sex is every bit as sexually intimate as intercourse.
10. Oral sex should only be doe with a person who you trust, both the players in an oral sex encounter are very vulnerable to the other.

I Love You (But Not That Way): Man Crush Confidential

I Love You (But Not That Way): Man Crush Confidential

by Shawn Baker

“I just wanna hang out with him so bad, man! Why won’t he call?!”

You’ve got a Man Crush: the state of not actually being gay… just gay for somebody in particular, as in “Dude, you’re totally gay for him.”

It’s a hetero thing.

On the evolutionary scale of gaydom, it’s the emotional spin-off equivalent of Joanie Loves Chachi to our Happy Days: a goofy simulacrum, a jejune take-off, a wacky send-up. Never daring enough to vie the NC-17 and too coy to go full-frontal, it plays like a G-rated apery of the real deal.

Its exact inception is impossible to pinpoint. Historically, the very moment that a man was first esteemed and thus set apart from his peers based on his physical prowess would have been the stone’s throw that commenced the ripple effect down the ages.

The primeval hominid who struck a spark with his flint or felled a mastodon no doubt drew his fair share of admiring tribesmen and exalted cave paintings immortalizing his exploits.

Gladiators — the prototype for modern-day pro athletes — prevailed the literal and figurative laurels from the crowd.

Dashing silent film star Wallace Reid may very well be the first man to lay claim to being Hollywood’s premier dreamboat.

The magic fluid

Jacking off. Wanking. Strangling the Kitten.

Call it what you may. It still leads to the same predestined end: the load blast, our nation’s greatest natural resource.

Allow me to extol but a few of its many virtues:

It’s Slangy! More so than the actual dick itself, the money shot inspires countless nicknames:

Splooge, Man Chowder, Hot Man Mustard, Dong Water, Donut Glaze, Spunk, Number 3, Population Paste, Gentleman’s Relish, Skeet, Load, Man Fluid, Penis Butter, Manthrax, Gizzum, Love Juice, Man Cream, Spew, Seed, Baby Gravy, Pearl Necklace, La Leche, Jizz, Wad, Pimp Juice, Baby Batter, Nut and Man Jam.

As other body fluids go, blood is the more vital, but though it may spew like a fountain in horror films, how many sobriquets has it earned?

Tears are poetic, yet still one-name wonders. And lymph? Please! Back of the line.

It’s Dynamic! Upon reaching climax, semen is thrust outward at ten miles per hour. Nothing beats either spraying all over your own face or dousing that flexing dumb guy who wants to buy your term paper all the way from across the room.

Unless you’re Horst Shultz, holder of the world record for long-distance ejaculation at an astounding eighteen feet, nine inches.

Bravo to Horst, who coincidentally also claims the title for tallest man (twelve feet, four inches) and has presumably laid numerous wives to rest.

They died in ecstasy.

It’s Profound! Where is Disney’s Travels of The Tadpoles documentary complete with folksy narration by Morgan Freeman already?

Sure, penguins are cute and gay, but our little wrigglers convey true pathos of their own.

An average spurt contains forty to six hundred million swimmers, making up only about three percent of actual semen. These determined bastards then haul ass like cliff-diving lemmings through the vaginal canal to fertilize a waiting egg.

I mean, if that’s your thing.

Maybe they just crash like so many beached whales upon the welcoming shores of your hunky personal trainer’s lips. Whatev. Their life cycle ends in only a few days and of the millions who begin the journey, a mere handful will survive the distance to penetrate the egg. Or end up hurled into a molten lake of stomach acid as they’re washed down with a vodka stinger.

The point is, it’s beautiful, IMAX-ready, and just begging for a Celine Dion theme song.

It’s Enigmatic! Stop and ponder that there’s a microscopic society of Snorks inhabiting your inseam that dies and is reborn in the amount of time that elapses between Britney’s public blunders of-the-moment.

Maybe it’s the biological grandeur of it all or just the Rohypnol taking effect, but that deserves some existential rumination.

In one sense it’s cosmic, our bodies housing a hyper-efficient and marvelous word, mirroring galaxies of distant stars and tailed comets hurtling across the void.

In another it’s deeply terrestrial, one single sperm cell following the path of our very first incarnation that dragged itself from the primordial swamp and set out into an unknown landscape proliferated with untold dangers.

It’s the ultimate allegory for Humankind’s very place in the universe.

So think about that, because my head hurts and now I have a nosebleed.

It’s Immortal! The Pop Shot can rightly lay claim to being the movies’ greatest and most enduring special effect. It requires virtually no technical preparation aside from a quick hit of Viagra and some encouraging slapping.

You don’t need a massive budget to pull it off. Unlike Stop Motion or CGI, it hasn’t had to adapt in the slightest to stay edgy and relevant.

While King Kong swatting down biplanes from atop his spire or Chuck Heston parting the Red Sea are still breath-taking milestones, it’s the sight of Peter North’s volcanic eruptions that we can watch over and over again and never tire of.

From Gang Bang Bukkake to Oral Cum Shots, loads a’ flyin’ are the sole film feat that be described as “ropey” and still hit the mark.